How Long Do Passion Twists Last
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When we were young, people would talk about how important it was to feel passion for what you do – career, love relationship, whatever your thing is. They said that if you don’t feel passionate about what you are doing, then chances are you will keep looking for something that makes you feel better about yourself, or you will stay in such a job because you need the money, not because of the work you are doing.
Some experts say that having no passion for what you do is even more damaging than being burned out. You know what they call those people who fall into the last category? Burn-out cases.
But why wouldn’t everyone want to be like that? People who have nothing left to burn usually seem pretty relaxed and happy.
And while it may sound crazy, there is actually some scientific proof which confirms that being too burnt out is sometimes a good thing.
It can help you achieve total detachment from everything. Sometimes this is a healthy thing.
Reasons why passion twists happen
Sometimes, a passionate relationship will reach a breaking point due to things that are outside of your control. This is when things get ugly.
Relationships take work and energy, which can be limited resources if you want to try and keep it going. If one person senses that something isn’t right, then they may walk away before it even gets too bad.
But here's the thing about walking away: sometimes, it doesn't work.
When this happens, there's no hope for recovery unless someone else comes along and finds you again, or you find yourself back together with someone who didn’t give up on you earlier.
This could be because they realized how important you both were to each other, or because they wanted what you had and couldn’t help themselves. It could also be because they needed you like water needs oxygen.
Whatever the case, know that you did everything you could have possibly done. You tried your best, and that should be enough for you. Now let go and move on.
What is happening physically
Let’s talk about something that many people struggle with – how long you should really invest in your passion. Many feel like they are wasting their time because they can’t seem to find the “good part” of their passion, or they get so invested in it at one stage and then nothing happens for months.
At this stage they may even start to question if it was worth investing in in the first place!
This is totally normal and natural. It takes an average person around three to five years to truly find their passion. That doesn’t mean that everyone has to do what you want to do but there is some value in knowing what you love and spending time doing it.
You will know when you have found your passion due to two things. First, you will just instinctively be able to tell that you enjoy it more than other things you try out. This will go beyond feeling good — it will make you happy every day, which isn’t the same as feeling good at times.
Second, you will keep looking and trying new ways to add depth to the life you lead by incorporating what you already know into other areas. For example, if you were passionate about music before, now you spend your free time listening to and studying different types of music. You also probably read music related books and study art courses. All of these additions increase your overall knowledge and understanding of music and other arts.
What is happening emotionally
When you feel passionate about something, it can sometimes be difficult to know how much longer you should stick around for. You might feel that there’s no way you could possibly keep doing this after some set amount of time, but don’t give up just because you think things will get too boring or you'll grow tired of it.
That would be totally normal!
We're all human beings here, so we definitely won't stay motivated forever, but giving up before you've really tried is a mistake. It's like quitting when you want to do something because you think you'll never succeed at it- and then not trying at all.
If you find yourself feeling discouraged, remember what I said earlier: even if everything seems completely hopeless, you still have today, tomorrow, and the rest of your life to devote to this. You are always allowed to spend your time on whatever matters most to you.
And since you already invested in the thing you wanted to quit, you got to include money spent on it as part of your budget. So why not make more investments while you have the chance?
It may take you months or years, but spending what you pay to learn new skills or meet new people to connect with the thing you originally wanted to stop investing in will help you retain this passion. Plus, you’ll start building momentum which will preserve your motivation.
What is happening mentally
This feeling, this passion that you have for something or someone will eventually burn out. If you don’t work hard to keep yourself interested in what you started investing in, then it can easily disappear forever.
Just because things didn't quite turn into anything major doesn’t mean they weren’t worthwhile. It's okay to let go and move on if you feel like it!
Breaking up is tough. Sometimes even harder than making the initial connection. That's just how relationships are sometimes.
If you've got strong feelings one way or another about someone, chances are you'll experience at least some degree of heartbreak when your relationship ends. Even more likely is that you'll be left with lingering questions and emotions until your brain finds a way to process all of this.
Given that breaking up is so painful, most people try to avoid it as much as possible. Most romantic relationships start off as casual encounters where there isn’t any attachment attached to either person. However, as time goes on, these attachments form and need to be broken down too.
It may help to look at the break up from a psychological perspective. Finding ways to deal with your emotional state after a breakup can make succeeding in other areas of life easier. In fact, most good relationships begin with two people who know how to properly interact with each other emotionally.
What is happening spiritually
We live in times where spirituality is heavily marketed and organized. There are many ways to pursue God or feel connected to Him, but what about those who simply want to connect with him personally?
Many people struggle to find this personal connection. They try attending church, praying at home, reading scripture, and listening for answers, but it never really changes anything.
It can be hard to know why. Sometimes we get so used to things being done a certain way that we don’t think of changing them.
Spirituality isn’t something you learn from one place or event, it is an inner feeling that comes when you are ready. It doesn’t make sense because there is only One Who Is Spiritual, but your spirit (your soul) knows Him.
That is why some people seem to “click” with Christianity while others do not. For each person, their own spiritual journey includes different experiences.
Ways to avoid passion twists
Sometimes, after a long passionate session, your body can’t handle it anymore. You have to make sure you give your self some time to relax!
This is totally normal and happens to everyone. Yours may be due to health reasons or physical limitations. Or maybe you just need a little break before you jump into more intimate activity.
Don’t worry about being too romantic – there are many ways to enjoy intimacy without having sex. For example, practicing kissing, licking, sucking, and stroking of each other’s skin.
Love yourself enough
Let’s look at some examples.
If you ever feel like you don't love yourself enough, then you're not loving yourself enough. You are living through your life with less than full intensity.
You may also be overvaluing other things in your life to the exclusion of self-love. For example, if you place a high value on your work or family, you will never have enough.
Because we take care of everyone and everything else but ourselves, we begin to believe that we do not deserve our own personal happiness.
We become unhappy people who go through the motions of living, instead of engaging in the activities that make us happy.
It's important to learn how to love yourself so that you can enjoy this short time on Earth. And it is equally important to recognize that you need to feel loved by others before you can truly love yourself.
Your inner child needs to be cared for and nurtured. When they see only hard looks and angry faces, they stop trying their best.
Self-esteem takes a long time to build, which is another reason to start now.
After you've made your passion a part of yourself, let it go! This is one of the hardest things to do because we love our passions dearly.
We can easily keep thinking about them and waiting for that moment when they're back in action but they just don't seem to happen anymore. It's easy to get distracted or feel like something has fallen by chance instead of through planning.
When this happens, it's hard to find the motivation to make your dreams come true. You may even give up altogether.
It's important to remember that life is not meant to be lived with lots of passion only at the start then nothing for years while you wait for the next big thing to occur.
You will not survive (or enjoy what little time you have left living) if you don’t take some time off to recharge your batteries.
Don't worry about how other people might perceive you during these times, instead focus on yourself and what you need.
Hopefully now you'll know when it's time to stop and really think about where your passion lies so you can properly begin looking for another one.