Many couples don't know the best way to apologize when one of you is clearly wrong, but the other person isn't. In fact, mistakes happen every day.
The old saying that "people don't like to hear no" is absolutely true. A simple "I'm sorry" is usually sufficient, but sometimes not enough, explanation.
Apologizing shows that you have listened and are remorseful.
Apologizing shows respect. Apologizing shows that you care about the other person and the relationship.
Apologizing shows that you care about the other person and the relationship. Apologizing demonstrates love and compassion.
Certain situations warrant a second thought before you say you're sorry.
These situations all warrant the possibility of being wrong, so why not find the opportunity to be wrong?
With apologies for the shameless bragging and the bragging about reading two books at once. This isn't bragging, it's truly one of the better things I've ever done.
A huge part of understanding our partners is recognizing the common ways in which we're wrong. But there are also multiple ways that we're both correct.
Two scenarios can occur when we both are right, even when we're wrong. You might even say that it's a fifty-fifty chance that you're both correct.
When we both are right, there's no need to apologize. I know that it sounds odd to both apologize and be right, but I don't think this is always the case.
When we both are right, we've actually agreed to disagree. I can give you all the reasons why your argument is wrong, but it doesn't change that you both see things differently.
If I know that you know that I am right, then I don't feel like I need to apologize because we've established that we both see the situation differently.
My wife and I rarely argue, and when we do, we pretty quickly concluded that we're both wrong. But, there are some times when we're both right and we both need to apologize.
You can be both wrong and need to apologize to your spouse and your spouse's spouse. It's not uncommon, but it's also not ideal.
The point is that you are both wrong.
Here are some scenarios in which you need to apologize and need to apologize to both people.
You might've been thinking that you've both been wrong, but your spouse might think you were right in the way that you interpreted their actions.
You may feel justified in feeling that your spouse is insensitive or just plain wrong when you believe that they did something horrible.
I'd argue that they were probably right to say or do what they did, but you might've concluded that they were in the wrong way that they did it.
One spouse might've been upset because their spouse left the toilet seat up. The other spouse could've been frustrated because their spouse had wanted to meet for lunch, but you weren't available.
You might've decided that your spouse was being inconsiderate, but your spouse might have just been putting you first.
If you've both been wrong, but you apologize to one person, don't apologize to the other person. If you've both been right, you both apologize to each other.