How To Bring Passion Back Into A Relationship

The term “passion” has gotten pretty weird in recent years. We seem to associate passion with something that is either physically intimate or romantic, which makes sense because we use the word "passion" both for those things and for about a billion different relationships.

But here's the thing: true passionate relationships are not about having sex or sharing your deepest secrets; they're not even necessarily about love. They're about doing things you enjoy outside of the bedroom (or maybe just inside it).

And while having intimacy and romance is totally fine and necessary parts of most healthy relationships, they are not what make a relationship feel vibrant and alive.

Intimacy and romance are also not a prerequisite to a happy life. In fact, people who are very close have usually never experienced an orgasm... so why would you expect them to be able to help you achieve one? 😉

If you want to experience passion again, it needs to come back into your relationship naturally. You need to work at it, and sometimes, it will just happen when you aren't trying too hard.

Be consistent

Consistency is one of the biggest keys to success in any area of your life, including relationships. If you want someone to feel passionate about you, they must see it from start to finish.

It’s like watching a movie — if the audience doesn’t watch the whole film, then they will lose interest eventually. They will also begin to think bad things about the movie and the filmmaker behind it.

Likewise, if they don’t see you spending time with them before they meet you, then they will assume you don’t like them or that you are not into them. When they do get together, you come across as very casual and cold.

If they see you looking happy when he/she comes around, but later you both seem less than enthusiastic, then they will likely draw their own conclusions.

Consistency is one of the most important qualities in a relationship. Unfortunately, some people are too focused on getting what they want instead of investing in something longer-term.

Make time for your partner

Even if you’re not feeling it at first, investing in your relationship will pay off! If you feel like there is no connection, then try doing things that we discussed earlier — trying new activities, talking about different topics, etc.

If you’ve already done those and it hasn’t helped, don’t give up. It may take some time, but keep looking for ways to connect with your significant other and work through any issues that may exist.

Relationships are definitely not one-size-fits-all, so do what works for you both!

Some people prefer to maintain their distance from each other while they figure out how to be closer. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but remember that relationships are a two-way street.

You need to make an effort too, and hopefully this article has given you some tips on how to do just that.

Be romantic

When you are in a relationship, being romantic is pretty much guaranteed. But when your love life has hit an all-time low, it can be hard to work up enough passion for kissing your significant other at night.

It’s easy to get discouraged when your lover doesn’t seem to feel the same way about you that you do about them. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing — most people don’t know what “popping the lid” feels like until they meet someone special!

But if you want your romance rekindled, then start by making more efforts to be romantic.

Do little things for your partner such as leaving notes or flowers outside their door, taking them out for a meal or movie, or doing something fun together. Try talking about things that matter to both of you, and see if those topics light a spark.

Ask your partner how they are feeling

It is very important that you ask your other half how they are feeling in the relationship. If there are any changes, like someone else who you both admire, or if they show signs of distancing themselves, it may be time to reassess what kind of person you want to spend your life with.

It’s easy to get into a rut when things are going well, but relationships take work and effort. You have to make an effort to put in the same amount of energy you would for something more significant.

If there’s no sense of passion anymore, then it’s time to look at yourself first as a cause of the problem. Work on fixing your own problems before trying to fix theirs!

By addressing the issues within you, you will find that your love for your mate can return.

Make plans

It’s easy to get distracted in a relationship, especially when things are going well.

It can become very tempting to spend time with your friends instead of spending time together as a couple. You may even feel like you need to check out other opportunities because you think your partner isn’t giving you enough attention.

But if you start to focus more on yourself than your significant other, then it will be hard to win them back.

Relationships take work, and investing in yours will only make it stronger.

Making plans outside the house or office is a great way to do this. Get some snacks, put on some music you both know, and enjoy being together.

Whatever you call it, just remember that what matters most is having fun as a couple and leaving feeling relaxed and loved.

Running away from relationships doesn’t help anyone — not you, not your partner, and probably not your friendships either.

Do things you enjoy

It is easy to get into a rut in a relationship, when you are not doing anything that you like to do.

If you feel like you have to do something every day that your partner wants to do, then it can become tiring for both of you.

You will begin to resent each other, which is no way to be in a relationship.

So, make sure you are spending time together on activities that you want to do, so that you can enjoy them.

And if you don’t, maybe it's time to look for ways to improve your intimacy skills or find new hobbies that appeal to you.

Communicate your feelings

In order to restore passion in your relationship, you have to be able to communicate how you feel to each other. If you're feeling passionate about something, get into a habit of talking about it — not just with your partner, but also friends and family.

Talking about things that make you passionate is a great way to rekindle the fire. You'll probably start by listening for signs of interest, then asking if there's anything special you can do to enjoy the activity more.

If your loved one says yes to changing or adding an ingredient, ask if they'd like to do some research on the best versions before making any purchases.

Be assertive

Sometimes in a relationship, one person gets tired of the other.

They feel like their partner is not interested in changing or improving, and they want to move on. If your significant other is showing no signs of interest in working on themselves and their relationships with you, then it’s time to consider whether this is really the person you want to be in a long-term relationship with.

If you have come to the conclusion that these changes are needed, then you need to be very careful what actions you take next.

Do not try to force them into making those changes unless you are certain that they will agree to do so. This could backfire badly and cause more problems than before!

Instead, be honest about how you feel but at the same time, be gentle and understanding. Try talking to them about why they seem to be lacking in passion for some time now. Perhaps they are struggling with work commitments, health issues or something else that is outside of their control?

If you both agree that there isn’t much hope of things getting better, maybe it’s time to think about breaking up? Or at least trying to break off contact so you can focus on your own life without having to deal with each other every day.

Breaking up is never easy to do, but if you are both willing to give yourself a few weeks (or even months) to separate yourselves, then you should do that.