How To Passionately Love Someone
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We all need passion in our lives, but not everyone has it within them to love deeply or keep their loved ones close. For some people, it is making dinner for someone you love that person enough to make sure they eat before they go hungry. For others, it is staying up late at night while they sleep off a bad day so your partner can enjoy their restful sleep when they return home.
For most of us though, it is when we are with our own family that we feel this passionate devotion towards them. When we spend time together as a unit, we sense a strong connection between us; we know each other and we have fun together, but there’s also an undercurrent of emotional attachment which makes us feel closer than we already were.
This is why even if the outside world may be changing and things are going badly, we still believe we will end up together. We trust ourselves not to get divorced, because we understand what feels right inside us will always win out in the long run.
There are many different types of passions, but one of the greatest is loving and being loved by another individual. It is no wonder then that almost every culture teaches certain ways of how to show love to parents and family members.
Sadly, however, these lessons don’t necessarily translate into relationships where none exist anymore.
Make time for them
It’s not enough to have passion for something, you have to show it. If you want someone to know that you love them, if you want them to feel loved by you, then they must see it.
You need to prove it to them over and over again. They will eventually figure out whether or not you really mean it, so don’t make too many promises unless you are sure you will keep them.
If there is one thing I learned about loving people, it’s this: be consistent. Don’t put off what you want because you don’t think they like you yet, start having those conversations now!
And while some may call it “nagging,” I would say that it’s actually proof of your desire to help them, which makes them trust you more. Plus, it works!
Consistency wins relationships.
Do things they like to do
Does your significant other spend most of their time in relationships watching TV or sleeping? If so, you’re probably not investing much energy in this relationship.
They may also have a tendency to put more effort into friends than they do family. You can easily feel left out and even hurt by these behaviors.
If you want to love someone passionately, then you must make an effort to enjoy activities that your partner likes. This includes going to movies, games, or restaurants that they like.
You should try to understand why your loved one enjoys such activities and what feeling appreciated means to them.
It is important to remember that not everyone loves spending time together for entertainment purposes. Some people prefer staying at home and reading instead of going out.
Thisis okay! Just because someone does not share your passion for certain types of activity does not mean that they will never ask you to be with them.
Hopefully the ones who do ask you to join them will invite you frequently and show some interest in you.
Ask them about them
There is something powerful about asking someone how they are doing or what they are up to. I’m talking about going beyond “How was your day?” and adding in some more depth to the conversation.
Ask about their work, ask if there’s anything you can do for them, ask if they’ve talked to anyone else about their career.
Questions that begin with why are also helpful. For example, “Why did you choose to study marketing this year instead of business administration like you planned?” or “What made you decide to take this new job?”
The answers to these questions give you insights into who this person is and what matters to them. They may even inspire you to pursue opportunities together or suggest ways to improve your own performance so you can fulfill your dreams too!
If you really want to know someone, ask about their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities.
But don’t expect all truth-tellers – no matter how open they seem at times — to always be totally honest with you.
That would be very uncomfortable for most people.
And while it’s tempting to use what you learn against them, remember that people have reasons for the things they do and feelings they experience.
Don’t assume that everything is just an act.
Follow up after hanging out
Letting your friendship grow means staying in touch outside of work or fun activities. It’s keeping in touch via phone, email, text, Instagram, and Facebook. You should not disappear suddenly without letting your friend know!
This is especially important if you have talked about limiting your time together because you were busy before, or needed space after what was an intense day at work.
If you are no longer comfortable being friends, then maybe it's time to reevaluate how much energy you're putting into this relationship.
You can always talk about everything under the sun, but not everyone wants that kind of intimacy. If you feel like you need distance, trust yourself to make the right decision for you both.
And don't forget to say thank you for their presence in your life.
Your friendship will continue to thrive as long as you remain respectful and communicate honestly.
Tell them how they make you feel
Let them know what makes you passionate about their love for you, what touches your heart and what you can’t help but admire about them. This is important because it helps them understand your innermost feelings.
He may not be able to read your mind, but he will at least know why you got red in the face when his phone rang or why you seem more energetic after he made an effort to include you in something.
You both want the same thing — for him to feel loved and wanted so that he will show love back to you.
It’s like a puzzle, and until he figures out this puzzle, he won’t truly know what love is. He’ll just think of it as someone who makes him feel good.
Ask them how they are
It is your responsibility as an intimate partner to ask about their well-being every day, not just when something significant happens.
Ask how their day went, if they had any problems or challenges, whether they’re happy with you, and if there’s anything they would like to talk more in depth about.
This doesn’t mean drop nonchalant conversation after “How was your weekend?” but rather actually invest time into talking about things that matter to you both.
By taking this extra effort to listen, show interest in what others have to say, and be aware of their body language, you will learn a lot about how they are feeling inside.
And while it may feel uncomfortable at first, waiting for that moment when they tell you what they want can help you understand what makes them unhappy and what might need changing.
If nothing seems out of place then probably don’t worry too much about it yet, but keep watching until you get a sense of what is and isn’t okay.
Ask them about their life
This is one of the most important things you can do as a person who wants to love someone else, especially if they’ve expressed an interest in loving you. If you really want to know if there is a chance for a long term relationship, ask them about their lives — what they like, what makes them happy, and what they enjoy doing.
Ask about their career – What does he or she work with, how did they get where they are now, and what does he or she look forward to at the end of the day?
Ask about his or her hobbies and interests – Does he watch sports, go to movies, read books, anything special that comes up?
Asking these questions shows that you are genuinely interested in learning more about him or her as a person and potential romantic partners. You care about the individual, not just for you, but also for him or herself.
Running your heart through a process of proof reading and validation takes time, but it will pay off in the form of self-love and confidence. It will help you believe in yourself and your ability to connect with other people.
Using our example from before, let’s apply this to you and your loved one.
Reassure your loved one about their worth as a person and ask if they need your help in seeking that help. If you notice them struggling with something, talk to them about it!
If they seem distracted or distant, try asking what is going on for them at work or at home. Is there anything you can do to help them feel more relaxed?
Is there anyone else they could speak to about their problems? Even if they don’t want to tell you what’s wrong, they might appreciate some advice or tips.
By being aware of their moods and behaviors, you will be able to predict how they are feeling and can take steps to fix the problem before it gets worse.
Give these people credit for trying hard to improve their relationships and keep communication open. They have given you a chance and you should return the favor.
Never assume things will change unless the situation has become too grave for either of you to survive.