Needing Passion In Relationship
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When you are in a relationship that no longer feels exciting, it is time to reconsider what you want out of your life and person. You deserve more than someone who does not seem to feel passionate about you.
If you have ever felt like an empty shell of yourself when you were in a relationship, then it is time to get some help. It’s important to recognize that feeling emotional attachment is a totally normal thing.
It's also okay if you don't always feel attached to your partner. Sometimes things just aren't working and you need to accept this and move forward.
But before you make any changes, you should be certain that you will stay safe and still love each other after you walk away. Your safety as well as his or her safety must be guaranteed!
In addition to these two items, you should at least feel loved by your significant other. If you do not, it may be time to look for a place where you can find this love.
Ways to get your partner to show you more passion
It is very hard to ask for what you want out of your relationship, but it’s even harder to keep putting off that conversation until you feel like something different.
If you have been struggling to bring up these issues then try doing so at a time when you don’t feel too stressed or overwhelmed.
The best times to talk about difficult things are usually after the kids go to bed and before dinner, since there is not much else going on. Or maybe during a quiet moment when nothing important needs done next.
Find your passion and invite it into your life
In order to keep your relationship strong, you need to know what you like and why you like it. You should have clear strengths that motivate you to do things together as a couple.
You also need to be able to talk about how you feel without becoming too emotional. When you don’t feel passionate about something, you can either change or give up on it, so it is important to recognize those times when you aren’t feeling very excited.
If you notice yourself getting irritable or angry more often than not when you are with someone, it may be time to say goodbye. A lot of people get into relationships because they think they will always love each other, but if one person cannot bring themselves to really show their true self then it will eventually break down.
Relationships take work and there will be times when you don’t want to put in that effort, but remember — it is a lot easier to stay happy alone than to look for happiness in another person.
Become a lifelong learner
In my book, I talk about how important it is to find your passion and share that passion with someone else.
But what does it mean to say that you need to find your passion?
It’s not just saying anything even though you feel passionate about something right now. It’s feeling really excited when you think of things related to your passion and then adding more detail to make sure you know enough about them.
You have to understand the fundamentals of your passion so well that you can easily pick up additional bits and pieces that make sense to you.
In this way, you’re always one step ahead because you’ve already learned some stuff about your passion.
This will help you stay focused on being knowledgeable and enthusiastic about your passion rather than trying to fake it for no reason.
Relationships are a long-term thing, which makes this principle even more crucial.
Try doing things that you love to do
Let’s look at this from another angle – what are some easy ways to boost your relationship passion?
Try doing things that you already enjoy doing. Why not spend time together watching TV or listening to music you both like? Or going out for coffee with friends you both have been waiting to meet?
By adding more activities into our daily lives, we create momentum towards other experiences.
If one of you enjoys swimming then take her swimming! If she loves reading then read a book together. If he is good at drawing then teach each other how to draw.
Whatever you choose to do, don’t make it too complicated. A movie is three hours long so why would you want to invest two and a half hours in something that makes you feel tired and discouraged after 30 minutes?
Keep it simple and fun.
Ask your partner more about their life
It’s easy to get distracted by work or other commitments when you are spending time with someone, but this is a big mistake. When they start feeling that you don’t care about them as much as you used to, it can hurt very deeply.
If you love someone, then you should make an effort to show it. Don’t just talk about things, try to do something – go out for a movie, take them shopping, invite them over for dinner so they feel loved and wanted.
Relationships take work, really. If you want to keep the passion alive, you have to put in the effort. But if you think you’ll always have passion, you’re overlooking the hard truth: sometimes people grow apart, even though there’s still love there.
Ask your partner to do things that they enjoy
In my experience, most people have a hard time staying passionate about relationships. It’s easy to get into a relationship and be happy with each other, but as soon as there is a little challenge or something you don’t like about the person, it can become very difficult to keep the passion alive.
The truth is, when we are not feeling passionate about someone, it is sometimes because of something they did. Maybe they hurt you by saying or done something that made you feel bad or they didn’t call you back after they said they would. Perhaps they got really busy and left you without a conversation for weeks on end.
It could be anything! No matter what they did, unless they apologize and try to make up for it, it will always remain an empty gesture at best and more likely, cause additional pain and resentment.
If you want to restore the passion in your relationship, ask yourself why you no longer feel romantic towards your significant other. Is it because they failed to show affection? Because they never mentioned how much they loved you? Or perhaps they cheated on you? If so, let go of any leftover anger and start focusing on them instead.
Ask them if they ever thought about leaving you. If they do, then chances are they have been thinking about breaking up for some time now. Give them the chance to explain themselves before deciding whether or not to stay in this relationship.
Be a good listener
A lot of people get stuck thinking that talking is a way to make your partner feel better about themselves, but it’s not. Talking is actually a way to help you connect with your own inner strength.
Good conversation helps you explore yourself and work through things that are holding you back or making you unhappy. It can even inspire new ideas and ways to achieve your goals.
If you want to be more passionate in your relationship, then start paying attention to what makes your significant other upset or excited. Look for patterns in how they respond to these different emotions and see if there’s anything that seems like it comes easily to them.
Then try asking them why this particular thing made them uncomfortable, angry, or happy. Sometimes their response does not match up with what we expect from them, so being aware can help us figure out who they are and what makes them tick.
It also gives you space to think about your feelings and whether or not you agree with theirs, which helps reduce stress and brings understanding to the situation.
Be a good divergator of attention
In order to keep your significant other’s focus, you need to be a good diverger of attention. This means that instead of focusing all your energy on someone else, you should invest time into activities or things that they are interested in.
If your loved one is not very social, then it may be important for them to work on being more sociable. If their goal is to spend time with you, then they will make an effort to become more socially active.
Similarly, if your partner enjoys watching sports, get tickets to a game or invite them to watch a match together. Does your lover like to read? Get them a book or ask if there is anything new they have been reading.
When they find something that they enjoy doing, they will want to do it more often which will create more opportunities for intimacy. It is their choice whether they agree to go or not, so don’t pressure them but try to facilitate their desire to connect with others.