What Is Passion In A Relationship

A lot of people talk about passion as if it’s an easy thing to have. If you want to know what someone else thinks that passion is, watch them use it.

But there are many ways to use the word “passion” so this definition isn’t helpful.

We also can't rely on just one example of how someone uses the word passion because there are too many examples out there. Some people may use the term passion very loosely or maybe even ambiguously.

This article will explore other definitions of the word passion, the differences between those definitions, and some tips for developing your own internal sense of passion.

Disclaimer!

I'm not saying that you shouldn't look for passionate relationships- I am telling you that you should. But if you're looking for something more than what most people define as a "passionate relationship", then you'll need to work on it.

Passion is a powerful force - it's why people get married and stay together, even when things get tough. Having a passionate relationship doesn't happen by accident - it takes work. And it can be quite difficult to find that work sometimes.

So before you give up and walk away, try working on it for a while. You don't have to do anything beyond proving to yourself that you can handle a casual friendship at least, but if you really care about the person you'll try harder.

What passion means

In the context of relationships, passion is defined as “an intense emotional attachment to something or someone”.

In other words, you feel an incredible pull towards something or someone and you want to give your all for it. You become extremely motivated by it and influenced by it.

This effect usually lasts a few minutes – maybe even hours at most - before you need to do something else.

Having passionate experiences with the people you love is a great way to strengthen your bond with them!

But remember, if you don’t feel passion towards what you are doing together, then try changing the thing up or finding another activity that you both enjoy.

It may take some time, but in the end, it will be worth it.

Finding passion

In my experience, passionate relationships are not always easy to find. If you look at a lot of successful relationships, they often come with a large amount of drama.

A few months ago I opened up a conversation about passions with some friends. One mentioned that her and her partner never really found much passion for each other. They both needed more outbursts of passion, but nothing substantial ever built up.

This got me thinking — what is passion? What makes something feel like it’s worth investing time into? And how can we tell if we're investing in those things that don't seem to change much?

I think one of the biggest misconceptions about passion is that it's something you have or you don’t. It’s not. You can invest in things without feeling too passionately about them. For example, let's say you work hard every day to ensure that your department gets the best possible reputation.

You put in lots of effort, keep yourself very busy, and spend a good chunk of your life working in this area, so it seems like you must be passionate about it, right? But what happens when people you work with don’t agree with these efforts? Or even worse, what happens when they actively try to destroy your career because they don’t want you to succeed?

That lack of passion comes across, and it can hurt you professionally and personally.

Letting go of passion

As mentioned before, passion is one of the most important things for lasting happiness in relationships. But how do you know if your partner no longer has this emotion?

A lot of times, people that are in passionate relationships have an easy time being close because they feel some kind of attraction towards each other. However, when there’s not much physical intimacy or romance, it can be hard to tell whether or not their love for you is still strong.

When your loved one does not seem as attracted to you as they were earlier, it may be time to look into what could possibly cause this shift.

It’s totally normal to feel hurt, insecure, and even disgusted at times. This feeling is natural, but it needs to be resolved in order to move forward.

If your lover seems more distant than usual, consider looking into possible reasons why. You might want to talk about any issues that they’re struggling with, or questions they don’t seem to want to answer.

Cultivating passion

In order to experience true passion, you have to feel passionate about something first. If you are not sure what things bring you joy, ask yourself why you are doing them? What emotions do you feel while you're doing them?

It could be talking with someone, reading a book, listening to music, exercising, whatever makes you feel relaxed and happy. Once you find your passions, you can start trying to include those things in your life more frequently.

As well as helping you feel happier, spending time on your passions helps develop self-confidence. When you enjoy what you are doing, other people notice it and praise you for it. This gives you a sense of confidence in yourself.

There is no one right way to know if you like something or not. It just depends on you! Try different ways to learn more about your favorite subjects, read books and magazines, and watch videos. See how much you can get out of it and give it a try for at least half an hour a day.

If you lose interest, don’t keep going until you feel like it, let yourself off the hook and move onto the next thing you love.

Communicating more

When your significant other is not communicating to you, it can be frustrating at best and depressing at worst.

They may have stopped having intimate conversations with you or even opened up to you about what’s going on in their life.

You might feel like there’s no way to help them unless you know what’s wrong, but there are things that you can do as a person who cares for them and wants the best for them.

First, make an effort to understand why they seem distant or hard to connect with. Does everything look okay? Are they under stress or pressure?

Is this because something has happened between you two that made them unhappy or angry? If so, try to address those issues and see if that helps!

If you both agree that most of the reasons behind the silence are related to passion, then it's time to talk about passions.

What are passions?

A passion is anything that makes someone happy and encourages them to spend time doing it. For example, many people love baking delicious looking snacks or desserts, so when they bake one item, they enjoy eating it.

This food looks good and makes them feel happier, which is the main ingredient for happiness. Therefore, they will keep making more bakes to satisfy their craving!

Passion comes from desire, so knowing what desires your partner has could help you figure out whether they're feeling passionate or not.

Being more romantic

A lot of people feel that being more romantic is a way to win back your significant other’s love. But, going beyond what you would normally do can sometimes be annoying for them.

When it comes down to it, most people want someone who makes them happy. If your loved one wants to see how much you care about them by doing things like washing their clothes or giving them a nice cuddle every night, then let them know you are willing to do those things!

But if they don't, well... maybe look into changing habits?

There's no need to get overly dramatic about it but some changes may be needed when relationships reach a breaking point. Sometimes, people just lose motivation to connect with each other and respect needs to be re-evaluated.

Relationships take work and energy so don't give up unless you want to find another person that gives the same amount of effort as you do.

Taking time for each other

A lot of relationships suffer because people do not have enough time to spend together. If you feel like your relationship is going downhill, check out whether or not you are spending enough time with each other.

This includes having separate activities so that you can keep up with each other, as well as just staying awake until the other person goes to sleep.

Being consistent

A lot of people get confused about what makes a relationship work or not work because they don’t know how to measure consistency. Consistency is one of the most important things that you will find in your relationships.

Consistency can be defined as staying in touch with each other, showing up for commitments (like going out together or spending time at home together), and demonstrating interest in the same thing appeal to the other person.

It sounds simple, but it takes a lot of effort to achieve this. This is why so many couples break up – something happens that throws a wrench into the situation, and then there’s no longer enough consistency.

If you are wondering whether or not your partner is really committed to you, look for signs such as them being busy around their work, money issues that may cause stress, or if they seem to have more friendships than romantic partners. All of these are indicators that they are not fully invested in your relationship.

Running away from responsibilities or putting off things that you said you would do together prove that they don’t want to be in a relationship anymore.

By being aware of when you feel like breaking down, and looking for reasons that maybe you should break up instead, you will be able to identify if your partner isn’t quite sure what he/she wants next.